Sometimes I need to listen to what I tell others or what I write in my articles or blogs :). Isn't that what some of us do? We tell others this great advice but we don't listen to it ourselves.
Today I spoke with the husband of a friend of mine. She is in the hospital dying. We haven't been close for quite a few years but today many memories of when we used to hang out came flooding back. I will keep her and her family in my prayers as she makes her way home.
This is some of the message that came for me in my meditation. I know this applies to other people I have lost in my life as well and my hope is that if you've lost someone you will know it's OK to cry too and this will help in some way:
It's OK to cry. When you miss someone or you remember a memory of laughter you shared, it's OK to cry. The memory is to keep them alive, to let you know they are thinking of you and also that your memory and love for them has touched their hearts.
Release the fear for where they are going, for they have arrived and there is no fear.
Release the emptiness you feel, for they will fill your heart with love if you'll let them.
It's OK to feel the sadness but release it to the wind once you've had your fill. It's OK to feel whatever you feel. It's a turn of the dial. Feel the emotions and turn the dial to the next. And then turn the dial to love and leave it there. Fill all the empty spaces with love, each and every nook and cranny.
This life is but a blink of an eye.
Fill your heart with thoughts and wonderful memories, of laughter, giggling, sharing of your deeper selves. Expand these thoughts and memories out, for this is what they are able to feel. They feel the love, the laughter, the wonderful sharing of each other. All else has been released and transmuted.
The anger from the argument you had last week or last year is no longer there. The pain from an accident is gone. The frustration over not knowing how to do something has vanished. The anxiety of what's to come tomorrow, is no more.
These are all replaced with joy, with love, with lightness and light.
Think of all the reasons you are grateful they were in your life.
Angel Blessings to you.
What I have found is that sometimes there are parts of me who seem unaware that people have passed on and left this earth. (I don’t know if those parts were not with me during the experience, or just didn’t have the experience.) So I feel that grief all over again, but usually not as strongly as there are healed parts ready to step in and help. I do cry at those times, and it feels like part of the grief process….taking time for all my parts to learn of the passing, and helping them heal around it.
Thank you Dana. As I read this, it rang true for me – from the emotion of the parts who are like – yea, you haven’t noticed us and why but now they’re here, feeling the emotion. and the realization this is true. Thank you for sharing. Sue