Yesterday I wrote Support and how we all need support at different times in our lives.
Today I wanted to expand on some of the things I have used throughout my life, that have helped to support me when I’ve been spiraling with grief.
Feel the feelings and emotions. This is something many of us don’t like to do. We hurt yet we don’t want to cry. But feeling what’s there is what helps move through it. Whether it’s anger, sadness, fear or humor. Feel each emotion as it comes up. Acknowledge it for what it is.
I have to say, as I type this, the time is 3:12 – Dad’s birthday. So I know he agrees. He was pretty good about talking about his feelings. Maybe not when I was younger, but the last few years before he passed, we had some wonderful talks.
Journal. Journaling is something you may feel you don’t have time for or you may feel it just doesn’t work. But there’s something about writing (yes, writing, pen to paper) about what you are feeling, that helps it work through your physical body. It’s almost as though the feelings pour out through the pen and once they are on paper, they have less power over you.
Walking in nature. Getting outside, in the sunshine with the wind blowing in your hair, listening to the birds or whatever kind of animals you may hear. You can talk as you walk along. Another way of getting the words out.
Now, if you feel foolish, you can always think about the emotions and let the wind blow them out of your aura. The sun helps to brighten things up.
Living in the now. I’ve written several blogs last week on being in the now. This moment is all there is. Memories are awesome until we get stuck in them. The future is fun to plan, until that’s all you focus on. Now is what there is.
Call on the Angels and your Loved Ones. You may not be able to see your Loved Ones who have passed or your Angels, but know they are there supporting you. Imagine them standing behind you or beside you when you are needing additional support. They are here with you.
Support comes in many shapes or sizes. Find what works for you. Please add in the comments section what else has worked for you.
Angel Blessings to you.
Sue
Empowerment 4 You
Great post! An excellent reminder of the important things in life. Taking some down time and letting the mind be at peace.
thank yoU!
Thanks Cheryl 🙂
I couldn’t agree more, Sue, about feeling the feelings. I like to tell my kids…”It’s normal to feel that. Recognize it, FEEL it and when you’re ready, let’s move on!.” I think it’s so important to not be afraid to feel. Great post!
Thanks Kerry. I think if more people ‘felt’, there would be less dis-ease in so many bodies…
Hi Sue,
Some great ideas here!
I have used 2 of them many times, and will revert to them any time I need – one is acceptance of the feeling, and the second is remembering the ‘now’.
As someone who has been through crippling depression, I know what it’s like to get surges of adrenaline.
Once you know what it is, when it next happens you can just accept the sensation it brings, and remember that although it feels anxious right now, it will pass and not last forever.
Thanks for the tips!
Cheers,
Gordon
Thanks Gordon. Glad to hear the acceptance of feeling. Accepting isn’t the same as saying it’s good or bad or anything – it just is. And that’s OK. Glad they’ve helped you in the past and I know accepting & ‘the now’ will continue to be on your journey with you.
Sue
Gotta feel it to move through it! I like your suggestion to walk in nature. I find the walking and being in nature both powerful to connect in a way to feel it and move through it. Thanks for all the great ideas. Best Regards, Wendy
Thanks Wendy. I appreciate the comments. Nature speaks to me, when I listen…
Love your reminder about talking out loud when outside…I do this more when I am driving. Actually, I take a LONG drive into rural areas when I feel all pent up inside with unspoken stuff! I will listen to loud music until the energy builds—and then I can let ALL the words, feelings, tears, rants flow. It is especially good for me to lower the windows and just do what comes naturally at the moment.
It is my honor, Sue, to have you as my friend. (just so YOU know, how special and fabulous you are….)
Thanks Bernadette. You are one of my spiritual family as well!
I have always loved walks along the beach. They are so relaxing and really help you center yourself.
Good one Toni. Walking along a beach, waves coming up, the smell of the ocean washing in. Great memory for me. Thank you! 🙂
Such great points, journaling and just getting back to the basics. Really enjoyed your article.
Thanks Sabrina. I like easy things 🙂
I find that writing things down sometimes helps, and have even written a letter to myself. I also find that writing a letter to someone who may have upset or hurt me has helped me resolve feelings too. I don’t send the letter, and it has been particularly helpful if talking to that person is not going to help.
Great ideas Michelle. I have used those as well, the letters you don’t send. And I’ve also burned some. Thanks for sharing. 😉